Doesn’t matters much that which place you have recently reached, prize you’ve won, money you’ve got in your pocket, landed on a job or just bought a car.. you still have basic human urges to fulfill, emotions to feel good and satisfaction to achieve. Doesn’t matters whether you’ve just climbed to moon.. you still need air to breathe and water to drink. Doesn’t matters how rich you are, you still needs few friends who truly loves you instead of your money. Doesn’t matters whether you are in Silicon Valley or Hollywood if you just woke up hung-over with your head spinning and feeling like throwing up..
Regardless.. of everything!
Forget all “if only.. this happens" and start living abundantly right now! Start being happy! Start enjoying yourself and everybody and everything and every moment around you!
Reaction; it’s the basic thing we do. We do it every day, every moment and everywhere with everyone. And as the basic law of nature, behind every reaction, there is an action. And most of the times in our life, the one producing the action is other than us, there is the second person. All we do is produce an unconscious reaction to it, which is an automatic process almost in every case. There comes an action, we produce reaction. There comes a stimulus, and we produce a response to it. There is cause, and there is effect. It’s natural.
But there is one very important thing to consider in between here. In every action and reaction process, there is a very small gap, negligible one. As soon as someone says something to us, we have very small time span before we finally produce some response to it. That, the gap between the stimulus and response, sensation and reaction, is one of the very important aspects of human life. It is the moment, which defines our happiness. It is a powerful weapon, tool in our life, if only we can use it consciously for our own good, and for everyone else’s. We can choose what to respond to what. We can choose what to say for what. We can choose what to do in what situation. We can think what to think.
We can choose to smile or frown, we can choose to be happy or angry. We can choose to understand, or bully. We can choose to fight back, or spread love.
But most of the time, we just fail to recognize this gap, the gap between stimulus and response. And we start playing a ‘blame game’. We start saying this was not my fault, situation was not in my favor, there was nothing I could do, he started it first, he knew everything, and he was stupid. Well, are you intelligent enough to understand the situation and produce an action consciously? Don’t you have the option to produce the action according to your desire?
Buddha/Osho says, “Don’t go blindly after the sensations, but instead, just watch them. Be conscious about what is happening.” This is even broader than just being conscious and acting according to our desire. They say you don’t need to hate anything because it hurts you or like it because it provides you good sensation. Just watch them, stay neutral as you try to become conscious. Soon then you’ll realize, what you felt bad is not really bad. What you thought you hate is not really worth hating. Your pain is not really yours. Even the good things you see are not really the good things you actually believe in. Your ego disappears. Your “I” disappears. You understand everything is changing every moment. There is nothing to stick to. You will not suffer anymore. And then you begin to smile. You smile without any cause.
Be a player who plays the game, not the ball who is being played. Drive the car to your destination; don’t just be driven by a moving car. Act, not react.
if you are in hurry and do not feel like reading the rest, ‘coz that’s all what I am talking about here in this post.
Relationship, friendship, smileship? It just means getting two person together with a simple smile. Smile, is a very powerful tool I have realized in years. And one day, suddenly while reading some article, I felt like, “Why not make an app that lets people upload their smile and share it with others?” Well, to be honest, there are already lots of more ideas in my ideas-log most of which are the Next Big Thing (from my view-point). But there is a small problem with the The Next Big Thing. And I was already feeling pressurized by not making any application so far. And the feeling that, may be I could land with a job if I made this site happen, urged me strongly to do so.
Well, Smileship is a pretty simple, straight forward application, all done in the simple hardcore php, mysql and twitter bootstrap. It didn’t require much. I made this website just to make it, to prove myself, “yes, I can also code.” And, absolutely, there is no catch anywhere. I don’t expect much from it. I have played with WordPress a little but not really much. I did made http://chitwan.info earlier, but there is no data, and the site is kind-of left orphan. May be some day I might fill it up or let it go. Anyway..
You know the benefits of smiling? I bet you do. I don’t have to explain it here. Just Google it. And even though we all know about all the benefits of smiling, why are we not doing so? I can feel that may be we just forgot to smile. Just to feel more serious about our professional career, our life and responsibility, we just forgot to savor every moment which can be done by just feeling happy and sharing it with a very simple smile. Not only you or him, me too, don’t smile, not much anyway. I hope my website will help me smile more often than before. That’s one benefit.
A friend of mine said, “what is the business model? It looks promising though.” Really? I felt really happy that someone said, “It looks promising though.” At least somebody felt that it’s worthy. I’m happy that I did it. And about the business model? I might just place few Google ads in the sidebar later on, if it turns out to be really promising. For now, let me seek a job by showing it as my portfolio. I have faced numerous interview failures till now.. [Well, let’s talk about this in later post, someday when..]
But you know what? Employers suck. (Sorry my future boss.) They don’t understand things. They just look through their perspective. I mean everyone does, but at least one can try to understand what other means. But between the relation of employees and employers.. I don’t think that’s anywhere near.
So that’s all behind Smileship. You visit the site, register yourself and upload your smile. And if you really, really can’t smile, you can at least see how come many of these people are already smiling so much.
At times, I thought, may be my site could turn out to be famous like, rainymood, endoftheinternet, nyan.cat, milliondollarhomepage, or facemash. But a friend of mine says, “Even though Facebook is a great success, it took him more than 8 years to be where he is now.”